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One of the strategies we teach over and over again is self-inquiry – which is basically the art of asking ourselves the right questions.  Why is this strategy so important?  Because the questions we ask ourselves become thoughts. Thoughts then become words.  Words become actions.  Actions become character.  And character changes everything.
Truth be told, when times get tough and big problems arise, as they inevitably will, it is the strength of our character that sees us through.
And since our character is directly influenced by what we say to (and ask of) ourselves on a daily basis, I want you to think about how you’ve been speaking to yourself lately.  Have you been using the empowering, encouraging words you would speak to a friend?  Or the belittling remarks you would shout to an enemy if you had no heart?  Or the negative remarks about life you might utter if you had no faith?
All day long you speak silently to yourself, and a part of you believes every word.  Which is why it’s important to stay mindful when problems arise, and meditate on these questions:
1. What could you be positive and happy about right now, if you really wanted to?  Your greatest weapon against stress and negativity is your ability to choose one thought over another.  Happiness escapes from those who refuse to see the good in what they have.  When life gives you every reason to be negative, think positive.
2. What’s one problem you’re thankful you don’t have right now?  Smile, not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and thankful for all the good things you do have, and all the problems you know you don’t have.
3. What do you need to stop thinking and saying to yourself?  Stop discrediting yourself for everything you aren’t, and start giving yourself credit for everything you ARE.  We have to learn to be our own best friends, because sometimes we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.
4. What are you holding on to that you need to let go of? One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, love or loss.  Change is never easy – you fight to hold on and you fight to let go.  But oftentimes letting go is the healthiest path forward.  It clears out toxic thoughts from the past.  You’ve got to emotionally free yourself from the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you.  Again, it takes hard work to let go and refocus your thoughts, but it’s worth every bit of effort you can muster.
5. Will you blame others and deny responsibility?  Or will you create an action plan to move forward on your own terms? Imagine how much more effective and happy you’d be if, instead of denying, blaming, dreading and fighting against certain situations and tasks, you simply got them handled.
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Special thanks to an authors Marc and Angel
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